WTF mates!

davidkphan:

I just don’t understand…..

Things between Nathan and I are…..tense, at the present time. We have horrible communication issues, mostly because he doesn’t share and I do. Sometimes its really enough for me to pull my hair out, why can’t he just talk?!

on top of all that stuff this dumb hoe in… I…

 People always want what they can’t have, hence me fawning after Kellan Lutz. Perhaps this hoe is just wanting attention and thinks she can get this from Nathan. I think the better question to ask is “is Nathan responding or entertaining her” If that is the case, then I would bring it up.

You two have been dating long enough that you should be secure in asking these questions. I’ve looked through my boyfriends phone, and it astonishes me how much he loves me. If i ever saw him text someone back with a hint of flirtaciousness you better believe I would say some thing.

Lastly as far as your communication problems. Some times it’s best to sit back and look at the big picture. What has changed, what do you feel, what does he feel. Then I highly suggest writing how you feel, and how he makes you feel on a letter, I say letter because I know Nathan doesn’t do email. Then give it to him and let him know that you want him to read it and you want his honest opinion. If you two are going to work things out you need to communicate. Some times a letter is good because it is one fluid thought and which cannot be interrupted by yelling or screaming.

If you two truely love each other than you’ll make it work.

love you!

 I knew I could count on you David Phan! I’m not sure if he is entertaining her back, he’s gotten sneaky with his phone, because the last time I looked I freaked out because Sonia and him still say “I love you.” So he has gotten into the habit of turning off his phone at night, which I asked him about awhile ago and he brushed off. Last night though he was already asleep when I got home and I plugged his phone into the charger for him and left it alone….until it woke me up in the middle of the night. I know that he loves me, and that some of it is my own issues with trust and my own insecurities, but it’s just annoying to have some skank even try. Serious, just go away.

And as far as the communication thing…oh dear god I have tried EVERYTHING. I’m currently reading “don’t sweat the small stuff in love” and they have some really great concepts, that I am trying to practice now. I have written him numerous letters and emails, I just can’t seem to get through his head that we are on the same team. I’m always there for him no matter what, even if I’m upset. But I’m running out of ideas, I really think that we need to counsel together so that we have a neutral 3rd party to help us to communicate, but I don’t think he would do it. He thinks that men don’t counsel.

I hope that we can work through it, but I can’t do it alone.

Thanks for your advice! xoxo